Love, Not Money, Makes the World Go Around

I recently came across the story of Sabsy Ongkiko, a graduate of the Ateneo University, who gave up better job offers to become a public school teacher. Hers is a very inspiring story. And the heartening thing about her story is that it is not an isolated nor one of a kind incident. I read a lot of stories these days about young Filipinos devoting their lives and careers in the service of others, specially the poor, the dispossessed and the marginalized. I think of our own Macky and Lani who have decided to stay and practice medicine in the Philippines even though they have the easy option of going and practicing abroad.

I have been blessed to have spent most of my life knowing and working with many such people who take their faith seriously, devoting time, talent and treasure to love and serve others. I have been blessed with a successful career I never dreamed of nor imagined. But in all those years, I walked some corridors of power and dealt with some very important people; I was always nagged by the feeling that I did not belong there. I felt more at home in simple and austere surroundings. And I was always driven by the desire to serve and do good for others. There are times I have felt good for the good I have done. There are also times I felt I could have done better or could have given just a little bit more.

Oh, the blandishments of wealth, power and fame are very seductive. And I would be lying if I said I did not enjoy them nor miss them now. But I know in my heart of hearts that these are not the answers to the questions that keep burning in people’s souls. God did not need wealth, power nor fame to create the world. Jesus repeatedly eschewed these during his time on earth. Instead, he hanged out with the poor, the sick, the sinners and those who had no wealth, no power, no fame. He knew how to deal with those who had wealth, power and fame. But he was never in the pocket of any one of them, even when it meant saving his skin.

The Philippines is at the threshold of a new era in her history. While trying to build a better nation for our people, I pray that it will not only be wealth, power and fame that will drive this effort; but more importantly – love, service and caring for others.

After this he went out and saw a tax collector named Levi, sitting at the tax booth; and he said to him, “Follow me.” And he got up, left everything, and followed him. Then Levi gave a great banquet for him in his house; and there was a large crowd of tax collectors and others sitting at the table with them. The Pharisees and their scribes were complaining to his disciples, saying, “Why do you eat and drink with tax collectors and sinners?” Jesus answered, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick; I have come to call not the righteous but sinners to repentance.” Luke 5:27-32

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Life is Meant To Be Lived in Joy and Happiness

Somewhere in my childhood, I was brought up often believing that having fun was somehow a sin; that life was not meant to be enjoyed but to be borne and endured; that one should consciously seek out pain and suffering to be one with Christ in his passion. It took a while for me to outgrow and overcome this outlook. Now, I believe and act that life is meant to be enjoyed and lived up; that we are called to be happy, in fact for all eternity; that the purpose of life is not the pain and suffering but the growth, strength and the joy that comes after.

Still, there are many in the Church today who preach a God who demands sacrifices rather than mercy and love; that life is about avoiding hell fire by spurning the joys of life; and that our God is a God who would love to see us punished for our transgressions. When I look at Christ and listen to his words, I see a person who knows and loves to enjoy life. He said: “I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” An abundant life is one that is full of joy and happiness. Jesus loved to feast and always enjoyed sharing a meal or a drink with friends and family. And when his disciples would fast, he told them to do it in secret and not inflict their sad or austere faces on others. He loved having children come to him and share their mirth and sense of excitement. This is the Christ I know and love to follow.

Then the disciples of John came to him, saying, “Why do we and the Pharisees fast often, but your disciples do not fast?” And Jesus said to them, “The wedding guests cannot mourn as long as the bridegroom is with them, can they? The days will come when the bridegroom is taken away from them, and then they will fast. Matthew 9:14-15

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Valentine’s Day

Today is the Feast of Saint Valentine and Valentine’s Day is a big thing back in the Philippines, second perhaps only to Christmas for people to give gifts and to eat out to celebrate. Indeed, Filipinos are a very loving people and I have always considered myself as a very romantic person. I love cheesy movies and novels. I love doing cheesy things for the people I love.

I guess the reason I am so devoted and committed to my faith in Christ is because he gave just one commandment to his followers: Love! It is easy for me to love, sometimes even to a fault. But love is everywhere: I see love in the joy and laughter in our family, in the sharing of even sad and bad times among us. I see love in our connectedness with friends of long and many years and even with time and distance keep us apart. I see God’s love for me in every sunrise and in nature around me. Oh, there are times I find it difficult to love as when I get hurt or feel betrayed. And I easily get hurt. But, as Sinatra would croon, still in all I’m happy because love has been good to me.

The joy and essence of love is in the giving. It is paradoxical. The more I take and keep things, and sometimes even people, for myself; the emptier I feel. It is when I give and give generously that I fell I have so much that I can give on giving even more. This is not the way of the world. The way of the world is about grabbing what I can for myself. Often, it is everyone for himself out there. Get what I can for myself before things run out. Lambs among wolves? Perhaps. But that is the way of love.

He said to them, “The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few; therefore ask the Lord of the harvest to send out laborers into his harvest. Go on your way. See, I am sending you out like lambs into the midst of wolves. Luke 10:1-6

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It is Ash Wednesday.

Today is the start of Lent and we celebrate it with a public acknowledgment of our mortality through the imposition of ashes on our foreheads. Lent is a journey with God. We start with the fragility of our existence and journey with him to the glory of the Resurrection, the reality that we are meant to live forever. It will not be an easy journey. It is fraught with difficulties and suffering, culminating with the way of the cross and the crucifixion. To ordinary human eyes, the journey ends in defeat and ignominy. To people of faith, it is the door we must pass to get to the next level.

My Lenten journey is building and strengthening my relationship with my God. It is very personal and strictly between him and me. He himself has taught how I can build and strengthen that relationship: through alms-giving, through prayers and through fasting. And because it is just between God and me, I will do these things away from the public eye. I shall give what I can but I will do it humbly and anonymously. I will pray but I will do it in silence and in private. I will fast but no one will ever know. And in humility and anonymity, in the silence and privacy, and in the hiddenness and simplicity of my life, I shall be alone with my God ~ getting closer to him, loving him more each day and serving him better through the people I meet.

Jesus said to his disciples: “Take care not to perform righteous deeds in order that people may see them; otherwise, you will have no recompense from your heavenly Father.
When you give alms, do not blow a trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets to win the praise of others. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you give alms, do not let your left hand know what your right is doing, so that your almsgiving may be secret. And your Father who sees in secret will repay you.
When you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, who love to stand and pray in the synagogues and on street corners so that others may see them. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you pray, go to your inner room, close the door, and pray to your Father in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will repay you.
When you fast, do not look gloomy like the hypocrites. They neglect their appearance, so that they may appear to others to be fasting. Amen, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face,
so that you may not appear to be fasting, except to your Father who is hidden. And your Father who sees what is hidden will repay you. Matthew 6:1-6.16-18

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Traditions and Spontaneity

I love traditions and deep down, I suspect I am really a traditionalist, for all my pretensions to being a liberal. I love the traditions I learned from my mother and father: how to behave with elders, what to do during Christmas, Easter and other holidays, going and regularly visiting friends and relatives even when there was no occasion, etc. In my own family, I have started our own family traditions: Wednesday dates, flowers at the start of each school year, letters to my sons on important milestones in their lives. Traditions give me a sense a stability in a turbulent world. They put a certain predictability in an otherwise unpredictable world. Traditions keep me grounded, specially at times when I would want to stop the world and get off. Traditions help me stay the course and put discipline in my life. I particularly love the traditions of my faith.

But I also love spontaneity. I am sometimes averse to planning. I love going on spontaneous escapades like a late night snack at an ice-cream parlor or a sudden picnic on a bright and sunny day or a spur-of-the-moment visit to a dear friend or a lovely mountain spot. I enjoy breaking traditions, specially those I find ridiculous or irrelevant. I love breaking into a spontaneous song or dropping everything I am doing to go for a joy ride.  I think Christ was a very spontaneous person. I would have loved spending the day with him.

I have always said that there are two things I would leave my sons: roots and wings. Roots include the traditions that will keep them grounded. Wings is the spontaneity that will give them flight and not tied up to the ground.

So the Pharisees and the scribes asked him, “Why do your disciples not live according to the tradition of the elders, but eat with defiled hands?” He said to them, “Isaiah prophesied rightly about you hypocrites, as it is written, ‘This people honors me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me; in vain do they worship me, teaching human precepts as doctrines.’ You abandon the commandment of God and hold to human tradition.”Mark 7:1-8

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Healing is Making Whole

I have worked many years working in the health industry. And I have noticed a difference in the art and science of medicine between Western medicine and Oriental medicine. Western medicine has focused on the science part, on symptoms and organ systems. Oriental medicine has focused on the art of healing and on maintaining and restoring balance to the body. In both instances, healing is not only the relief of pain and symptoms but making the person whole again.

Healing was one of the things that Jesus did during his ministry. People came to hear his words and receive his consolation. And they also came in droves to get healed of their many infirmities. He healed not only their bodily ailments and also the maladies of their spirits. In his stories and parable, he taught the the people what it was like to be a person fully alive, what it meant to be a whole person. A whole person is a holy person. And holiness is haleness, that is health.

I ask the Lord to heal my body, as well as my spirit: to heal my body of its pains and weakness and to free my spirit of its anxieties and its sorrows. I will make my won the prayer of the leper, imploring Jesus: “Lord, if you will, you can make me whole.”

And wherever he went, into villages or cities or farms, they laid the sick in the marketplaces, and begged him that they might touch even the fringe of his cloak; and all who touched it were healed. Mark 6:53-56

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God Would Have Made a Very Bad HRM Manager

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I used to do Human Resources Management, where I researched, recruited and retained excellent people for the companies I worked for. I looked for people who had top caliber talents, demonstrable skills and credentialed experience. Mediocre, unskilled and inexperienced people need not apply. I was looking for winners to become a part of a winning team. This was the standard practice as well of all my HRM friends, as we competed for the best talents in the labor market.

When Christ went about to recruit his first followers, he did the exact opposite. He sought out the unlettered, the uneducated, people with very simple skills, those who were even considered as outcasts by society like tax collectors and the poor. He recruited the sinners and the whiners, not the winners. This went against all conventional wisdom; it went against the ways of the world. Yet, he transformed these simple people and changed the course of human history. This was the way chosen by him who set the stars on theirs courses and the made possible the wonderful unfolding of the universe. And it worked!

When Christ calls and invites me to follow him, I encounter him not in my victories or glories. Instead, he seeks me in my brokenness, fragility, my frail humanity and, yes, in my sinfulness and weakness. He does not condemn me but raises me up from where I am to the next level. It is when I am out of my depths that the Lord comes to stretch out his hand and pull me out of the mess I am in. I should not be afraid then to put out into the deep where he is waiting for me.

There is a certain and inexorable unfolding in all of creation that makes all things new. There is a defined cycle and rhythm in the universe that brings all things ever one to the next level, making them ever more beautiful, fuller and better than before. What I see around me and what I experience within me, God has formed out of the dust and cinder of dying stars. Out of barren twigs and branches, he coaxes out new life, bright colors and food for man’s sustenance. I only need to trust that God is working in, through and with me in this wonderful experience called life as part of the unfolding of the universe.

When Simon Peter saw this, he fell at the knees of Jesus and said,
“Depart from me, Lord, for I am a sinful man.”
For astonishment at the catch of fish they had made seized him and all those with him,
and likewise James and John, the sons of Zebedee, who were partners of Simon.
Jesus said to Simon, “Do not be afraid; from now on you will be catching men.”
When they brought their boats to the shore, they left everything and followed him. Luke 5:1-11

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The Hymn of the Universe

I love the image of a beating heart as the symbol of life and love. The constant and rhythmic alternate contraction and relaxation of the heart muscles send life-giving blood coursing throughout the body. When someone says “My heart beats for you”, his heart beats in rhythm with that of the other person, signifying their oneness in love. So it is with everything else in the universe – from the rhythm of tension and relaxation to the constant pulse beat of up and down or close and open or darkness and light to the regular alternation of activity and rest – there is a constant beat and rhythm that tells me the universe is alive. We see the stars twinkling because, massive as they are, they are pulsating to their own rhythm. Quarks, the smallest particles known to men, can only be observed by the amplitude of the rhythmic waves they make. All of creation has a pulse that beats to a certain rhythm. And if one can hear all the beats and syncopation and the pulsation, one would have heard the universe singing its hymn to the Creator.

And so is my life beating to the tune of this Divine melody. I count my days by the rising and setting of the sun, my months by waxing and waning of the moon and my years by rhythmic passage of the seasons. I count my moments by the beatings of my heart. I mark the memories of my life by the alternation of joy and sorrow, the cycles of laughter and tears, hunger and fullness, tempests and calm.

I have come to learn that my prayer time is a vital part of this rhythm and pulse beat of my life. This is a lesson that Christ himself taught the apostles and the disciples. He would rise up early in the morning to pray. And he would regularly take his followers out to a deserted place where they could be alone and spend the time in quiet prayer. It is in prayer that I encounter the Divine Wisdom and catch a whisper,  a strain of the hymn that the whole universe is singing.

The apostles gathered around Jesus, and told him all that they had done and taught. He said to them, “Come away to a deserted place all by yourselves and rest a while.” For many were coming and going, and they had no leisure even to eat. And they went away in the boat to a deserted place by themselves. Mark 6:30-34

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Why Be Good At All?

Three things I have to guard against and work hard to resist: the works of the flesh, the ways of the world and the wiles of the devil. The works of the flesh are lust, sloth, gluttony, greed, anger, envy and pride. The ways of the world are the quest for material wealth, temporal power and fleeting fame. The wiles of the devil would have me believing in lies and dealing in untruth, not believing in the power of life and love and instead doing harm and havoc to others. These looks so obvious on paper that being good should be a cinch. Yet, even up to now I struggle to be free of my lustful desires, of my proud moments, of my selfish actuation, of my envious judgements of others and my unforgiving anger. I still struggle to suppress my secret wish for my one moment in time and my desire for vainglory. There are still times I deal in lies and give way to hating. And the ultimate struggle is to answer the question of why be good at all. There is no easy answer.

Lent begins next week. I will confront this question more vigorously through the time-honored practices of prayer, fasting and alms-giving. Through fasting, I shall free myself from the works of the flesh. Through alms-giving, I shall free myself from the ways of the world. And my prayers shall shield me from the wiles of the devil.

For Herod himself had sent men who arrested John, bound him, and put him in prison on account of Herodias, his brother Philip’s wife, because Herod had married her. Mark 6:14-29

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Defining Myself

In one of our recent ILM classes, one of the sisters was sharing with us her experience in prison ministry. She was relating how they have to take off everything they have except literally the clothes on their back before they are allowed in to minister to those imprisoned. So, they bring nothing with them but their person in ministering to the prisoners. And the nun said that she eventually realized that all she needed to minister to those in need inside the prison was her person.

Indeed, I need food and sustenance and others as well to be alive and keep on living but in the end, I am all I need to live. I am all I need to love. I need no gifts to give but myself to express the love I have for others. And if I am willing to truly give myself and my time to another in love, then I will be willing to give up anything for that person.

I am also the fountain from which springs more life and creativity. I express myself in the things I do and say. I define what I have and the people I love by the person that I am. But somewhere along the way, things get distorted and I get to be defined by the things I have and the people around me. Thus, people would rather be defined by the things they possess or by the job that they have or even by the car that they drive. People would live their lives by what other people say rather than be the person that they are. I was made in the image of God. I reflect the goodness of my source. That is all I need to realize in trying to define myself.

He ordered them to take nothing for their journey except a staff; no bread, no bag, no money in their belts; but to wear sandals and not to put on two tunics. Mark 6:7-13

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