Then one of the scholars of the law said to him in reply,
“Teacher, by saying this you are insulting us too.”
And he said, “Woe also to you scholars of the law!
You impose on people burdens hard to carry,
but you yourselves do not lift one finger to touch them.”
~ Luke 11:45-46
When I am honest with myself, I sooner realize that what I hate in others is often what I hate most in myself. And I would sooner change others that change myself for that seems easier to do. I would gladly impose burdens on the other person and not lift a finger to change myself. Too much effort. Yes, I would re-create the world and others in my image and like-ness. That is, according to my liking.
But when I am really, really honest with myself I come face to face with the fact that the only thing or person I can change is myself. The others is his own person and will never be amenable to being re-created in my image and like-ness. Indeed, if I want to change the world, I can only begin and work on myself. It is up to the other person and the world if they would follow suit. They probably wouldn’t but I would have become the change I wanted to see in the world.