My faith teaches me that it is for love that there is the world. And one of the greatest expressions of this love is when “a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” I have always seen this union of marriage as a communion of love, a visible and physical expression of God’s creative love. Thus, marriage is first and foremost a communion of love.
And if marriage is a mirror of God’s creative love, then it should also always be open to procreation. Thus, “The Creator made them male and female.” And the sexual act is the most pleasurable expression and consummation of this communion of love. There are couples who cannot have children because of some physical defects. Theirs is still a communion of love.
There are other communions of love possible. There are those who renounce marriage and live together in communities as communions of love. These are the religious communities who forsake the pleasures of sex but still live in a communion of love with others.
Can two men or two women live together in a communion of love. Yes, and I have seen it happen in real life. I have witnessed more love in homo couples’ families than in some hetero couples’ families I know. But I have a problem calling this communion of love a marriage as it is not procreative. In the same manner, I have a problem calling a marriage the union of a man and a woman but who fully aware make the conscious decision not to have children. This sounds to me denying the very love that is the basis of their marriage.
It is good these things are talked about and discussed. I welcome all communions of love and their myriad expressions, traditional, conventional, unconventional. The union of a man and a woman is one such communion of love and it is called marriage or matrimony. There are those who live as celibates and in communities and build communions of love and these are the priests and the religious orders. Same-sex unions can also be communions of love. But I do not know what or how to call them. And we need to reflect on how the Church can bless and care for such unions.